A vital sentence expressed by the Master of Both Worlds, Muhammad ﷺ;
“Treat women nicely, for a woman is created from a rib and the most curved portion of the rib, it’s upper part. So, if you try to straighten it, it will break but if you leave it is as it is, it will remain crooked. So, treat women nicely.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari – 3331]
There is no doubt that the blessed words which have been spoken by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ are indeed true.
The nature of women by which they have been created by الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ consists of being emotional, soft and fragile compared to the male species.
Therefore, it has been commanded by Prophet Muhammad ﷺ;
“I order you to treat women well.” [Al-Tirmidhi – 3087]
These narrations are vital for all Muslims to understand that Islam was the religion that liberated women, allowed Muslim women to obtain their rights and made Muslim men aware that they have agreat duty towards their womenfolk.Unfortunately, due to a few cultural reasonings it is understood that Muslim women are regarded as weak, inferior and shackled by the chains of their male guardians.
Though, this is not the case in Islam. The rights of a Muslim woman has been ordained by the Almighty الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ and His beloved messenger Muhammad ﷺ .
We are all aware of the famous idiom;
“Behind every great man is a great woman.”
And this could not be much relevant that in the aspects of a number of famous, Islamic scholars.
As looking through the Islamic history, there is no doubt that it is through the persistence, duaas and significant contribution by their mothers was the immense success obtained by the likes of Imam Bukhari [ra], Imam Shafee [ra], Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani [ra] and Imam Muslim [ra].
Motherhood is a cherished concept through the entire human civilisation – though within this day and age, quite frankly it is looked down upon.
A highly, successful business women is celebrated in account of her successful career. However, a woman being a housemaker is not a cause which can be classed as successful.
We have failed to understand that it was through a Muslim mother’s actions that a religious rite was proclaimed as compulsory.
Hadhrat Hajrah [as] was left alone in a wilderness desert with her infant child; Hadhrat Ismaeel [as]. She had nothing with her besides the firm belief in الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ that He will not abandon her. As soon as her son became thirsty – immediately her maternal instincts overcame her and she ran back and forth between the mountains of Safaa and Marwah in search for water.
As thousands of years has passed by but this action of Hadhrat Hajrah [as] was considered so pure and significant in the eyes of الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ that millions of Muslim men and women still continue to practise this monumental sacrifice.
A forgotten sunnah is that Our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would frequently consult the Azwaaje – Mutaharaat [ra] (The Pure Wives [ra]) in regards to religious and worldly matters.
A famous incident in relation to Hadhrat Umme Salamah [ra]. Once the companions [ra] travelled with the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ from Madinah Munawarah to Makkah Mukkaramah with an intention to perform Umrah, due to the prohibitions of the Non Muslims, the Muslims were prevented from doing so and were told to come back the following year. Already, in the state of Ihraam – the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ commanded the companions [ra] to shave their heads and sacrifice an animal so they can be released from their Ihraam.
The companions [ra] were truly disheartened and upset as they could not perform umrah this year, therefore, they were reluctant in observing the command given by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Also, fully disheartened; Prophet Muhammad ﷺ went inside his tent, to which his wife Hadhrat Umme Salamah [ra] asked regarding the situation. She immediately gave the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ profound advice that;
“Oh messenger of الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ, you shave your head and sacrifice an animal -the rest will surely follow.”
This advice was immediately sought by the blessed messenger Muhammad ﷺ, by which the noble companions [ra] also followed in the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ’s footsteps.
Likewise, it could be said that it is a stereotypical belief that Muslim women are deprived of an education, that; besides a few, basic and fundamentals Islamic teachings – a Muslim woman should be completely unaware of Islamic teachings. As a matter of a fact, these statements are in complete contrast to Islam.
Bahesti Zewar, also known as Heavenly Ornaments – is an Islamic book written by Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi. The main aim of this book was aimed ideally for the Muslim women, so that, these women can be educated in all aspect of their life from an Islamic and worldly aspect.
It has been narrated that Imam Malik [ra], a great Islamic scholar in matters of fiqh and hadeeth would have such a teaching atmosphere that there would always be a pin drop silence. Himself and his students would participate in hadeeth lectures to show complete respect towards the beloved words spoken by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Though, when an error was made during the recitation of the hadeeth, there would be a knock on the door – to alert Imam Malik [ra]. This knock would be from none other than Imam Malik [ra]’s daughter; Imam Malik [ra] daughter had memorised her father’s entire hadeeth collection as she was always eager to gain Islamic knowledge from a young age. Being a well-known Islamic scholar, Imam Malik never prohibited his daughter from participating within his lectures.It is the mercy and love that the Almighty has towards his servants, though, created differently with varied attributes and qualities, الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ has never disregarded the status of a Muslim women – الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ has allowed both his male and female servants to obtain the same type of reward, just simply; in a different manner.
As mentioned in a narration that Hadhrat Asma bint Yazeed [ra] came to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and said;
“May my father and mother be sacrificed for you O Messenger of Allah ﷺ. I am a representative of the women to you. Allah has sent you as a messenger to all the men and women, we have believed in you and your God. Now we women have been confined to the houses, we bear your children, men have been preferred over women in terms of Friday and the other congregational prayers, visiting the sick, attending funerals, doing hajj after hajj, and more than that, jihad in the path of Allah. When you men go out for hajj, umrah, or jihad, we look after your property, we weave your clothes, and we bring up your children. Will we not share with you in the reward?”
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ then completely turned around to the companions [ra] and said to them;
“Have you heard any woman asking about her religion better than this?”
“O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, we never thought any woman could have been guided to do this.”
Then the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ turned to her and said;
“Understand O woman, tell the other women behind you, that a wife looking after her husband, seeking his contentment and going along with him is equal to all that.”
The woman went back with her face shining with happiness.
Created from a curved rib of a man does not adequate – the intellect, the zeal, the passion and the willingness which الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ has bestowed within a Muslim woman. She is and will always be a great asset within the Muslim society.